How to have a good relationship

Posted: April 11th, 2009 | Author: admin | Filed under: Create your perfect Relationship |

How to have a good relationship

Has this ever happened to you?

You want your partner to spend more time with you but he says……plus he’s too….. and you don’t know how to get him to want to spend more time with you and you feel………

I know that getting your husband to give you more time and attention, spend time with you and take you out somewhere romantic can be a big deal.

I also know that as much as you may love him, it isn’t always enough.

You can be married and still feel empty and dead inside.

You can be married and still feel unloved and unappreciated.

You can be married for years and not know what it’s like to be adored.

You can be married for years and not really connect with your partner.

You can be married and not really know if he loves you as much as you love him.

You are not alone!

Make relationship problems and thing of the past

Learn how to get him to do the things you want him to do.

Learn what it takes to have a loving and fulfilling relationship.

Learn how to feel adored and loved again.

Learn how to let go of past hurts, present insecurities and future disappointment- by learning how to have him eating out of your hand and loving it.

The savvy wife’s guide to getting what she wants

6 steps to make getting what you want a breeze.

One of the simple things you can do to get your husband to sit up and notice is to make it so easy for him to do it, he can’t possibly say no.

Goal: to go out somewhere romantic – just the two of you.

Bigger picture: Understand how easy or hard it was for you to ‘handle’ your partner, to persuade him to do what you want here, and use this as a measurement for how much more there is for you to know.

Step 1

Make a list of all the obstacles that get in the way of going out on a date- for instance, the children need a babysitter, you have more work to do, you’re tired, whatever it is write it down.

Step 2

Start planning how you’re going to have all these obstacles taken care of and get his help and anyone else’s you can think of to help out here.

Step 3

Once you have that sorted- i.e you know that the best time to go out is on a Wednesday then start to test the waters. Start asking your hubby what he would like to do that just involves the two of you. Plus what his idea of a great night out would be. Ask for more than one example to find something that interests you both.

Stealth tactic 1

Make suggestions like only women know how to do.

For instance you could say

“ Honey you know our night out that’s coming up in two weeks- would you prefer to go to the cinema, or for a walk or out for an inexpensive meal? If he’s on the ball he might say- none. So you then say your request again this time imply in your tone and your words that he doesn’t really have a choice.

“Honey I was thinking- I’d like to go to the theatre on our night out, but I know you would like the cinema- but in the spirit of fairness you choose- I don’t really mind ” ( make sure you suggest a film that you both like – something neutral at first)

And leave it like that.

Step 4

Notice your results and then start tweaking how you ask and when you ask- and keep asking until…. until you get your desired outcome- that is when he agrees to make the time to take you out.

Eventually he will concede and then you’re good to go.

Step 5

Note what you did that got you your end result and know that this is one of the ways you can use in the future that gets your hubby to do something you want.

Also note which steps you found the hardest and note this is where you’ll need more help and guidance from me.

Step 6

Enjoy your night out.

With know how, hutspa and a willingness to create a loving and fulfilling relationship- you really can be living with your ideal mate.

Let me know how it goes ladies- until the next time.

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