How To Get A Man To Fall In Love With You

Posted: May 22nd, 2009 | Author: admin | Filed under: Men in Relationships | Tags: How to get a man to fall in love with you |

How  to get a man to fall in love with you

 

Have you ever wondered how to get a man to fall in love with you?  Or  even asked yourself if it were really possible to get a man to fall in love with anyone- can we make  men fall in love with us? 

This is an interesting one for me because it’s what every woman wants-I know it’s something I wanted to know the answer to as I was growing up, I wanted the dream of meeting Mr Right and having him fall madly and deeply in love with me, and if he didn’t, to have a way to make him fall madly and deeply in love with me. 

So are you in the same boat? Despite your years of experiences, and knowing full well that fairy tale endings are really just that, do you still want to know how to get a man to fall in love with you?

 

Okay, instead of answering that question directly- this is what I will do, I will ask it another way-  how  do you get a man to fall out of love with you?  This is something I know something about.

 

Here is something you should pay attention to.

 

Respect and support rule a man’s heart

 

You can’t go far into research into a what makes men  tick, without coming across one thing every man needs- and that is to be respected.  It really is a big deal for men and though of course us ladies want to be respected, we would place connection and friendship as possibly meaning the same thing – at any rate as something important to us. 

 

So, as the research would tell us, respect your man and he’s yours.

 

Now I happen to believe this to be true, because no matter which man I’ve ever known if I can show him I respect him- and it is different for each man I know, then they really do love it, and will go out of their way to be of help to you.

 

So, if you want to know how to make a man fall out of love with you- it would be to disrespect him.   But as I have just alluded to this is tricky, because there isn’t a universal law amongst men that says, do this and it means you respect us.    

 

However, there is something I have seen that turns a man off or on and that’s how you relate to him in public. 

 

Public face versus private face 

 

Have you ever been out with your husband or boyfriend and said something in front of his friends or family which he later called you to task over?  And as far as you were concerned it was only a small thing but he took it so badly?

 

Well this is what I mean about respect.  The touchiest thing I know about men when they are out with their friends, is that you cannot say anything that would give any impression that he isn’t all he’s cracked up to being.

 

So let’s say he’s the kind of man who likes his deserts- and it’s beginning to show around the middle,  and at a meal out with friends he goes on about how we’re getting fatter as a nation and we all really should change our eating habits.  And listening to this, you remark – jokingly that he should be practice what he preaches- which of course he may laugh at but calls you to task about later on when you get home.

 

You say, but you’re always going on about needing to lose a bit of weight, so what’s the problem?  Where he snaps at you and says that you shouldn’t go telling everyone else about that- or words to that effect.

 

This is a lack of respect.

 

Because, as much as he may joke about it at home, when socialising,  if you mention it to others and refer to him, he could interpret this as a lack of respect for him and that will cause an emotional distancing.

 

And of course over time, this can cause a big shift if he feels that the woman he loves, doesn’t respect him as a person.

 

What you need to do here is find out- ask your husband or if you’re single, ask male friends how they know they are respected- from other women, their wives or girlfriends, and listen to the answers.  Use that for when you are in a relationship and make sure that you do all you can – if you can- to show your respect for him.

 

This I know to be true- a man needs to be seen as being without flaws- even if they are glaringly obvious to everyone that he is full of them, and he needs his wife/ girlfriend to support his image of this , in public at least. 

 

What support does for a man

 

I said earlier that respect and support rules a man’s heart and this is something that surprised me when I realised how true it is.

 

The biggest thing you can do to make a man fall out of love with you is not to support him.

 

If you leave him floundering around unsupported then he will find it difficult to love you.  And its the same for us, if you think about it.  If you’re not supported by a person then you don’t really want to be around them- do you?

 

And the difficulty with support is that if you agree with a course of action your husband is taking, then it’s easy to support him, isn’t it?  But if you don’t agree with what he’s doing, then showing or giving support becomes  a lot more difficult.

 

But despite you not agreeing with something, support is support and we all need and want that.

 

And from experience, one of the quickest ways to get a man to fall out of love with you, or not even get close to loving you, is not to support him.

 

So if you tear down his plans.  Belittle him.  Tell him you don’t agree with his dreams and make him conform to yours.  Remind him of what he’s not good at.  Consistently offer your opinion that focuses on what he has done wrong. Criticise, moan or other wise let him know you don’t support him, then you will find it difficult to get him to love you,  to get any man to fall in love with you.  

 

These and all the myriad of tiny things you do everyday can say- I support you ( despite the fact that I don’t agree with what you’re proposing) or I don’t support you, or I’ll support you (only when I agree to what you’re doing)

 

Respect and support for men is definitely a way to make him feel unable NOT to fall in love with you, or not to love you- because if you’ve got someone who loves and supports you no matter what,  then it goes without saying that you will have some deeply held positive feelings toward them, and it is the same for men.

 

Until the next time…

 

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