Is He Running Away From Your Relationship?

Posted: May 24th, 2009 | Author: admin | Filed under: Men in Relationships |

First he wants you then he leaves you- Are you in love with a commitment phobic guy? Pt 1

 

Have you ever heard of the term “ pursuit/panic syndrome”?  Apparently it accurately describes the kind of man who has pursued you one minute and then panics and leaves you the next- usually without warning and usually to women’s complete surprise.

 

In the game of love, typically you will meet a man and given the natural and reciprocal attraction you feel toward him and he toward you, the game begins.  He showers you with time, attention, gifts, and makes it known to you that he’s more than interested in you.

 

You allow this to happen because in the natural course of relationships, it feels good to be wooed, pursued and made to feel special.

 

But there comes  a time in any relationship with this kind of guy, where he will turn on his heels and runs and you may not see it coming.

 

Why does he run? 

And why don’t you see it coming.

 

You don’t see it coming because of his pursuit of you.  Typically he will come across quite strongly, and given that we’re talking about commitment phobic guys here, he doesn’t show the classic signs of not wanting to commit to you and the relationship. 

 

So couple his determination to pursue you, and the lack of the classic commitment phobic behaviours, that’s why you won’t see it coming.

 

And the reason he runs is because after a while- it can be after the first time you slept together, it can be weeks into the relationship, it can even be months or years later, there will be a time when he feels, ‘trapped’.  And it’s at this point that he doubles back on himself and runs away from you and the relationship.

 

Gut feelings.

 

I heard a story the other day about a woman who had been married to a man for years, raised their children together, supported him through changing his career, and one day he announced he was leaving and that was the end of their marriage.  Yes he was leaving them for another woman who was pregnant with his child, and that was bad enough, but what was worse was that the wife in question didn’t have an idea that something was up, or so the story went.

 

It turns out that in hindsight, months after this has happened, she did see those clues.  He started acting differently, he lost a lot of  weight, he took up new interests, he started staying away from home- with plausable excuses, but a change in his behaviour.  The wife knew something was up, in fact others around her also knew, but couldn’t quite put their finger on it- until later when it all started to make more sense.

 

So with this type of guy, look out for the cues, the change in his behaviour and more importantly, how it strikes you. 

 

We all have a sixth sense, a gut feeling about things, and it may only be a fleeting thought that crosses your mind, which you dismiss, but it’s there.  And any uneasiness on your part could be the trigger you need to help you detect changes that you may not like,  but need to know about.

 

So are there any other clues?

 

There are 4 distinct points when this type of man will turn on his heels and run which we shall talk about in the next article.

 

Until then, identify whether the man you’re involved with is in fact anything like the man I’ve described here.

 

Look at your gut feelings and ask yourself how you feel.  Are you uneasy about something?  Has something been troubling, niggling at you?  

 

Later I’ll give you access to a great resource of the major types of men who do not have  good relationship potential,  until then, think about what I’ve asked you here and get clear on what it is that is bothering you.

 

Until the next time….

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