Is He Telling You That You Are Not That Important To Him?

There are ways in which he is telling you that you aren’t that important to him and you’ll suffer if you stick around too much

The things I want to talk to you about are:

· What is the first sign that you may be with the wrong guy

· How to measure this to see if it really is a problem for you and

· How to use this information to help you decide what to do next

By the time you’ve read this article, you’ll have more awareness about the type of man you are with which can help you make better relationship decisions. You’ll also know what to look for in prospective partners so you’re better prepared.

This brings us to the first point:

What is the first sign that you may be with the wrong guy

I have a question for you Does the man that you’re with ignore what you want and does his own thing even if he knows it bothers you? If he does then it may indicate that you’re with the wrong guy.

Let me explain what I mean.

If in your everyday life you feel as if he consistently ignores what you want in favour of what he wants, and does some things that he knows bothers you, then how you feel about that, how it is affecting you, could be the first indication that he may not be right for you.

For example when you are with him and you’re suggesting you go and visit your parents this weekend, but he says something like, well you can go, I’ve got other things to do, and won’t budge on this issue, this would be a typical example of the kind of attitude that will tell you what kind of man he really is.

So you need to think about whether his attitude here is an issue for you.

Once you’ve thought about this, you’re then ready to measure just how much of an issue his insensitivity is for you.

Measuring this impact is easy- just take one of your past memories and use your gut instinct and use a zero to 10 scale this to assess the level to which you feel this is an issue. Measure it’s impact from zero to 10, where zero means it doesn’t bother you at all, it’s not an issue, and 10 where it is a real issue for you.

So as you think about his insensitivity to what you want at particular times during your relationship, what is the first number that comes to mind?

For example if your gut isn’t too strong, then give this issue a scale between zero and 4. If this issue bothers you somewhat, then score a scale from 5- 7. If it really is a problem for you then score from 8-10 obviously the higher you score the more it bothers you and indicates that this issue is a problem for you.

Which brings us to the last point, how to use this information to decide what to do next.

Realising that he doesn’t actually think about what you want in the relationship isn’t in of itself an indication that he is the wrong guy or the right guy for you- you need to use this alongside the other questions in the upcoming videos, plus other factors before you can make that judgement.

For example, whilst going through your normal daily routine, keep a mental note of how this issue is really impacting you and see whether the score you gave here today reflects how you really feel about this as an issue. And if you would alter the score, alter it accordingly and set it aside for the moment.

You now have the first sign that you may be with the wrong guy and how to use this to help you make better relationship decisions now and in the future.

So before I conclude remember to focus on whether this is an issue for you and if it is how much of an issue for you.

Put this into practice now and you may just save yourself from wasting weeks, months or even years on the wrong man.

Until the next time….

Is He Telling You That You Are Not That Important To Him?

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